You joined a team, club, or class run by an adult who clearly had a picture in their head of what you should be. More aggressive. More competitive. Louder. Tougher. Less sensitive. And they keep pushing you toward that picture — "toughen up," "stop overthinking," "you're too soft" — as if the way you naturally are is a problem to be fixed. You've started trying to be the kid they want. Hardening yourself, hiding the parts they don't like, performing a version of you that goes against your nature. Some days you barely recognise how you're acting. You respect this adult. You want their approval. But you're starting to wonder if becoming who they want means stopping being who you are.