You've noticed your phone pulling at you even when you're not using it. You're talking to someone, or reading, or trying to fall asleep, and your hand drifts toward it on its own. You check it for no reason, find nothing new, and check again a minute later. When you can't have it, you feel a low restlessness, like something's missing. It's a strange thing to notice about yourself — that a device has this much pull, that part of your attention is always half-listening for it. You're not sure you decided for it to be this important. It just sort of happened, one habit at a time. You're wondering who's actually in charge — you, or the phone.